It’s not every day that you hear a woman say her divorce was a “blessing in disguise.” But that’s the lawsuit for 34 -year-old Betsy Ayala.
Though she’d fought with her weight her whole life, Betsy reached her heaviest after giving birth to her daughter in 2013.
Weighing in at 260 lbs ., Betsy wasn’t as worried about her physical heath as she was her mental health. She’d begun wrestling with postpartum depression and anxiety.
It was around this time that Betsy’s brother suggested she try eating better, as a route to help herself feel better.
“I had a newborn, and I didn’t have the will to cook, ” she says, “so I learned about Herbalife shakes and I dedicated it a shot.”
To her astound, the altered in her diet slowly started to work. Betsy started to feel better, and although weight loss wasn’t her intent, she even began to shed some pounds.
Down 30 pounds postpartum, Betsy was feeling pretty good about life. She’d managed to tackle the depression and anxiety she was experiencing after giving birth, and got her health on the right track.
That’s when everything she’d ever known came crashing down.
She detected her husband–and high school sweetie since persons under the age of 17 — was cheating on her.
“At that phase, my whole world fell apart.”
To add salt to the meander, she found out he’d been calling her a “cow” and “fat” behind her back.
Despite being profoundly scarred, Betsy says they tried for months to make their wedding run, but to no avail.
“At that moment, I supposed,’ This is not going to define who I am. I don’t want to be the style I have been all these years.’ That drove me to make a permanent altered in my life.”
Her determination to move on with their own lives, and has become a healthy, happy role model for her daughter, moved Betsy to attain some radical changes.
“I wanted her to be proud of me and have an example of a strong mommy that perseveres despite whatever happens, and have a happy life. That moment was when I decided that I wasn’t going to be the same person I was before.”
Christmas 2013 came and ran, and along with all of the other New Year’s Resolutioners, Betsy made the gym in early 2014. Despite never being active before, she was determined to make a change.
Being intentional about her diet, and working out regularly, Betsy committed to a healthy lifestyle.
She exerts six days a week, and cut out soda and processed food–with the exception of a “cheat meal” once a week.
Three and a half years later, Betsy has lost 111 pounds to date, and even started her own fitness ARMY.
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“At the beginning it would be difficult, but it’s candidly not as hard as you think it is. Once you feel good and you construct that change and you see how amazing it feels to feel good, it simply becomes part of your life. For me, it’s second nature. I don’t question going to the gym–it’s part of what I do. And even feeing right, it’s not,’ Oh I have to eat healthy today.’ It’s part of my life now. I enjoy it.”
While her weight loss journey has been remarkable, Betsy says the best part about getting healthy has been detecting a more positive outlook on life.
“When you feel good and you’re good with yourself both mentally and physically, it changes your perspective on life. When I go to the gym, I push myself to do things I couldn’t do before. It changes your mindset–you become fearless because this one thing you thought you never could achieve , now you’re be permitted to do.”
Her transformation from depressed and overweight mother to healthy and active momma is genuinely inspiring.
Of course, I have to believe the sweet retaliation of taking back her life after her husband cheated on her must have felt pretty good too!
May her fitness journey inspire you today!